The spring cleanup on my property looks daunting: a lawn
that looks as though it was ravaged by storms (it was), a garage roof in need
of repair, a retaining wall with crumbling stucco, etc., etc. I figure I should
have it done by the time the leaves fall off the trees again. Having a home is
worth the trouble of doing the chores, of course, but that doesn’t make them
fun. I remember a time, however, when they were.
I always was lucky enough to have my own bedroom while
growing up, but I really didn’t have a “this is mine” sense of territory with
regard to it. It was in the house of my parents, and I was well aware (without thinking about it) that whatever exclusivity I had to the space was at
their sufferance. I picked up after myself to the degree my mom insisted, and
no more.
The first living space that felt truly my own was my dorm
room at GWU: Room #517 in Mitchell Hall, located three blocks from the White
House in downtown DC. It was the size of a walk-in closet (picture below) and
the bathrooms for the floor were down the hall, but it was a single (no
roommate) and no one cared what went on in it, so long as it wasn’t so loud as
to annoy the other residents on the floor. It was the early 1970s. These were
the waning days of hippiedom, which paradoxically also were the days of its fullest (so to speak) flower. Cultures are often at their most ornate
when they are in decline – literally decadent. Just about the time I graduated,
folks – suddenly, it seemed – traded in their headbands for disco shoes, but,
for the four years prior, the music was psychedelic, the lighting was black
(illuminating Peter Max posters), and the comics on students’ end tables were
by Robert Crumb. It was a fine time to be 17-21 among like-age people in one’s
own space in the downtown of a major city. There aren’t many chores that can be
done in one small room, but I did them: I painted the walls a burnt orange, hung
era-appropriate artwork (not visible in this shot), and kept the space in
reasonable order – for a college student anyway – without considering any of
that to be work.
I had similar diligence regarding the first real estate which
I actually owned. My home was a 4-room cottage (5 if you count the bathroom as
a room) but it was mine. (Picture below.) I repainted walls, replaced trim, dug
post holes for two-rail fencing on the boundary, repaired the back deck, reroofed
the cottage and garden shed, retiled the bathroom, planted spruce for additional
privacy in the front, hacked a walking path through the overgrown wooded part
of the parcel in the back, and much much else with no sense of chore. I’ve
owned three other properties since then; while I’ve appreciated all of them
(even the one on which I lost money), I never again had the same enthusiasm for
maintenance or improvement. Thereafter, it was work—worth it, perhaps, but
still a cost of ownership. For those who pay other people to do the labor (I don’t for anything I have the skills to do), it is literally a cost of ownership.
Not so very long ago in history, fewer people were footloose.
Their first property (if any) was apt to be the last – improved and expanded as
years passed, but not sold. I’m sure this engendered a greater sense of “home”
and made the attendant labor more satisfying. I sometimes wonder if my zest for
such tasks would have faded had I kept the cottage. Maybe, but I don’t think
so. Like one’s first romance, one’s first home is special. Later ones may be
nicer or more suitable, but…well…they’re not the first.
I think this applies to your first car too. My little white Ford Escort will always be special to me. I washed that car every other weekend by hand (and sometimes every weekend if we got rain). I took it in for it's check ups like clockwork. I kept it really clean inside. Even as I neared the 10 year mark with it, it looked pretty darn good, even if my washing commitment died around the fifth year or so.
ReplyDeleteI ended up selling it to my brother in law. When I saw it a few months later I as shocked. Hole in the bumper next to a half ripped bumper sticker, a bunch of fast food wrappers in the back seat and what looked like a cracked panel on the passenger side. I knew it wasn't my car any more, but I still offended. :)
All the cars we've had afterward have been nice and had elements that were much better than my little Escort, but that car will always be a special one for me.
I was similarly fond of my '73 Ford Maverick which took me to college and back, and then all around the lower 48. One reason I feel comfortable in my 2014 Chevy Cruze is that is is much the same size as the Maverick and has a similar feel. The Ford had a beefier engine though: a 302 (5 liter as we say nowadays) V8 which was a lot for a compact car.
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