Friedrich Nietzsche defined humor as
sublime cruelty. Cruelty is not always disrespectful. Sometimes it is the
opposite. Why do guys commonly banter insults with friends? It’s an
acknowledgement that the other fellow is strong enough to take it. The insults
have to have some bite, too, which means they must have at least a kernel of
truth. (There is of course a line the location of which is best not to misjudge
too often.) Humor also can be genuinely critical – even contemptuous – which
also is not necessarily a bad thing. We need to be able to laugh not just at
what we hate but what we love – very much including ourselves. It’s the best
way to get the proper intellectual distance to (re)evaluate our values,
beliefs, and desires. This is why Fred valued laughter so highly: “And we
should call every truth false which was not accompanied by at least one laugh.”
It’s no surprise however that others are not always amused.
At the moment there is considerable
social power in being offended, most notoriously on college campuses.
Numerous comedians such as Chris Rock and Jerry Seinfeld refuse to work
colleges for that reason. John Cleese agrees and adds, “And the whole point about
humor, the whole point about comedy, and believe you me I thought about this,
is that all comedy is critical.” The trend is likely to continue until enough
people start to find the trend funny.
All this comes to mind from two books that formed my
nighttime reading last week – reading in bed being my most common soporific.
First up was Jokes and Their Relation to
the Unconscious by Sigmund Freud. Sig’s reputation has taken a serious dive
in recent decades, but mostly because of backsplash from the narrow-mindedness
of the workaday hacks who followed him and called themselves “Freudians.” His
own books are much more exploratory and thought-provoking. If I were to recommend
just one of his books to someone who knows him only from secondary sources it
would be Civilization and Its Discontents.
In it he reveals himself to be far more open-minded than many of those
secondary sources suggest, as in his remarks about alternative sexuality:
"The requirement, demonstrated in these prohibitions, that there shall be a single kind of sexual life for everyone, disregards the dissimilarities, whether innate or acquired, in the sexual constitution of human beings; it cuts off a fair number of them from sexual enjoyment, and so becomes the source of serious injustice." (Civilization and its Discontents, 1930)
Freud was not really known as a natural
raconteur, but he did enjoy a good joke. Being himself, he could not resist
analyzing them, however, which led to this book. Nothing kills a joke more effectively than explaining it. So,
this is a very unfunny book but an interesting one. None of the jokes he uses
as examples are knee-slappers. Those that involve wordplay seldom survive the
translation from German. Don’t expect to laugh at any of them. After all, he is
isn’t trying to be funny but trying to make points about the motives and
reactions (both conscious and unconscious) of the jokers and the audience. This
one about unreasonable expectations is about as amusing as they get, I’m
afraid:
A man goes to a match-maker to find a wife.
Marriage broker: “What are you looking for in a bride?”
Customer: “She must be beautiful, rich, and educated.”
Marriage broker: “Very good, but I count that as three matches.”
"The requirement, demonstrated in these prohibitions, that there shall be a single kind of sexual life for everyone, disregards the dissimilarities, whether innate or acquired, in the sexual constitution of human beings; it cuts off a fair number of them from sexual enjoyment, and so becomes the source of serious injustice." (Civilization and its Discontents, 1930)
Marriage broker: “What are you looking for in a bride?”
Customer: “She must be beautiful, rich, and educated.”
Marriage broker: “Very good, but I count that as three matches.”
Jefferson
Airplane - Share a Little Joke
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