We are often exhorted to challenge
ourselves – to seek new heights. That is all well and good for some single
facet (or handful of facets) of our lives where doing that is actually fun in
its own way: some hobby or sport, say, or even something more remunerative such
as securities trading. Maybe you’ll one-up Albert with a successful Unified
Field Theory. (I doubt it, but give it a shot.) But as a general way of life it
has its drawbacks. Happiness sometimes is defined as reality divided by
expectations when the quotient is greater than 1. (Since we’re talking about
lowering the bar, one might prefer the even simpler reality-minus-expectations
with the answer a positive number.) This is because we irrational humans judge
success in relative terms. We’re giddy when things go better than expected and upset
when they go worse.
We all see this every day. For years I
was a real estate broker, and customers, especially when unaccompanied by
spouse, often were surprisingly (and unsolicitedly) open about their
disappointments in life. I remember showing one woman, who drove a $65,000
Mercedes, an $800,000 suburban house. (Both items would cost perhaps 25% more
today.) “I can’t believe this is my life,” she said despondently. She was serious.
I’m aware that there is more to life than material well-being, and that there
are many legitimate reasons why moneyed people nonetheless might be unhappy.
Maybe she had them, but I couldn’t help (unnoticed I hope) raising an eyebrow.
If her material expectations had been even grander however (e.g. French villas
and private jets) maybe the shortfall in that area alone was the disappointment.
Self-reported happiness in the US has
been declining since the 1950s. Analysts have blamed everything from obesity
rates to social media addiction for the trend. At bottom, though, it seems our
expectations have changed. After a desperate Depression and a brutal war, those
who in the 1950s achieved the dream of a little ranch house with a Chevy in the
driveway thought they were in pig heaven – it was more than for which they
could have hoped a decade earlier. They were happy days. Compare that to the
previous story.
If we consider only the material portion
of life, how much money would it take today for Americans to be happy by their
own reckoning? The numbers vary significantly by generation. According to a survey
by the financial services company Empower, the median minimum net worth it
would take are as follows:
Zoomers: $487,000
Millennials $1,700,000
Gen X $1,200,000
Boomers $1,000,000
Annual salaries would have to be
Zoomers: $128,084
Millennials: $525,947
Gen X: $130,344
Boomers: $124,165
Zoomers actually have more realistic
goals than Millennials, though it may just be that that they haven’t yet
learned how much a dollar is really worth (or, more importantly, isn’t). All of
these numbers are high, of course. The median household income according to the
Census Bureau is $74,580. (The median household size in 2023 was 2.51; for a
single-person-household the median income for a full-time employed worker was
$57,200.)
A little greater pessimism about goals
and expectations might cheer the whole lot of them up in the long run. They can
get some surprises on the upside.
The power of lowering the expectations bar
is evident in the counter-intuitive finding that seniors are the happiest age
group. They don’t expect much anymore and so are not much disappointed. I can
relate. If I wake up in the morning feeling hale, that is enough. It’s a good
day.
Millennials $1,700,000
Gen X $1,200,000
Boomers $1,000,000
Millennials: $525,947
Gen X: $130,344
Boomers: $124,165
The Doors
– Been Down So Long It Looks Like Up to
Me