I’ve been soft-shoeing around the edges
of some of life’s vicissitudes this week. I won’t explain that further because
it is not really my story to tell, but I find myself spouting a lot of clichés
in consequence. That’s OK. Clichés are clichés because most of them are truisms
and truisms tend to be… well… true. I remember back in high school one of my
youngish teachers (perhaps 27) commenting that one of his most annoying life
lessons was discovering that all the trite old sayings from his parents at whom
he used to roll his eyes were true.
He wasn’t entirely right about that.
Take Nietzsche’s “What does not kill makes stronger.” That is only half-true.
Sometimes what does not kill permanently maims. Assuming a harm is fully
recoverable, however, Fred was onto something.
My teacher was largely right however. One really
shouldn’t judge a book by its cover. Life really is too short to sweat the
small stuff. Actions do speak louder than words. We do all share a common fate.
OK, the grass might not really be greener on the other side of the fence, but
it sure looks that way. (Horace actually translates as “the crops are riper in
the neighbor’s field,” which I like a bit better.)
What about clichés that are not homilies
but just hackneyed turns-of-phrase such as eat one’s words, cruel to be kind, wild
goose chase, be-all and end-all, heart of gold, and too much of a good thing
(all Shakespeare)? In everyday conversation I don’t think they’re so bad. They
convey the point in a way our listeners readily understand. Not everything we express need
be creative original oratory. We can save that for our acceptance speech for...
um… whatever we’re accepting.
I never liked the saying, Everything happens for a reason. Really? There seems to be maybe a religious connotation about that one? I don't know. First coined by Thomas Edison when he invented the light bulb, “the third time is the charm” has changed a lot over the years. The reason is simple: it’s disheartening to hear “the 10,000th time is the charm.” It just doesn’t have the same ring to it. We needed something more inspirational, so we now use this abbreviated version.
ReplyDeleteThat is the sense in which most people use it, and I never found it helpful either.
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