At all times the peculiarities of
the younger generation are cause for concern to everybody else, so currently
it’s the Millennials who just can’t catch a break. Their work habits, debt
levels, and living arrangements are scrutinized and disparaged in the press, on
film, and in fiction. Millennials appall some commentators with their supposed
hook-up culture while worrying others for not canoodling enough. Just this
morning I encountered an article by Millennial author Caroline Beaton at Psychology Today titled “Why Millennials
Are Failing to Shack Up: One reason Millennials are marrying later and having
sex less.” It joins similarly themed articles in Rolling Stone, The Huffington Post, and even Forbes. The articles often have over-the-top titles such as “Tinder
and the Dawn of the ‘Dating Apocalypse’” in Vanity
Fair.
Maybe it’s not really an
apocalypse. Besides, broad strokes painted of an entire generation are bound to
misrepresent large parts of it. Nonetheless, it is apparently true that,
statistically as a group, they date less, have less sex, and start having it
later than did Xers or Boomers at their age. The “one reason” offered by Beaton
(not altogether implausibly) is an excess of apparent choice offered by online
dating profiles; they prompt anyone looking through them always to think they
can do better. Other articles, at least in regard to hetero dating, note the
lack of datable young men: two out of three college students are female, and not
all of those remaining one-in-three are “datable” due to other factors, such as that most males are effectively broke. (The top-earning 20% of men are doing
better than ever, but the rest have seen steady declines in real income.) Other
articles refer to a particularly sullen state of the gender war while still
others claim to see an odd sort of neo-Victorianism.
I know nothing of any of this, but
it is hard to miss one huge difference from when I was 20: communications
technology. That in turn brings to mind a particularly prescient scifi novel by
Isaac Asimov published in 1957 titled The
Naked Sun. The setting is the planet Solaria. On Solaria individuals live
isolated on enormous private estates, but everyone has spectacular
communications. Solarians socialize with each other via holographic
telepresence, a sort of Skype on steroids. Solarians are utterly immodest while
communicating in this VR way. Yet, not only do they prefer keeping physical distance from each other, the very thought of in-the-flesh face-to-face contact
with a human being is repulsive to them. Procreation is handled scientifically
and antiseptically while robots raise the offspring elsewhere – actually that
last part sounds like a good idea. As for carnal desires, robots are available
for those too.
We already are halfway to being
Solarian in our communications. Have I not seen Millennials in the same room
text each other, preferring this to talking? All we need now are better
love-bots than the underwhelming models currently on the market; then we can
forget about dating altogether. Yes, it would be a form of autoeroticism, but,
to steal a line from Woody Allen, that is “sex with someone I love.” Many of us
don’t really like other people very much in person, it seems, so, with such a
ready market, we might get there soon, and Millennials are well positioned to
arrive first.
ah good old Asimov is predicting the future again. :) I really enjoyed that book, more than I thought I would from reading the premise. I finally got my hands on Robots of Dawn, and I'm looking forward to seeing where that one goes.
ReplyDeleteThe Solarian future doesn't sound too bad to me either. Asimov's robot concept is pretty darn cool. But I do wonder if the porn industry is fighting hard to keep the sex robot industry from really taking off. Are there battles and espionage going on? More importantly can they make a movie about that, because it sounds like it would be awesome!
I liked "Robots of Dawn." It was very much of its time in one way though: the zeitgeist regarding youthful sexuality is much more uptight today than when the book was published in 1983. Though the book is in no way salacious or graphic -- it merely mentions the customs of Aurora -- today I suspect a mainstream publisher would object.
DeleteMaybe a script for that movie can be your next project. Revisit "Cherry 2000" first, even though that's not the plot exactly.
I don't know, like you said they paint their generalizations with a wide brush. I didn't date a lot back in the 60's either, was broke all the time, etc. as well. The difference seems to be there's more public communications, if that makes any difference. Sometimes it seems like there's more talking, but not a lot of listening. Facebook, Twitter, texting, etc. are ways to communicate, though more informal that a phone call, plus some of the people on my FB account I hardly know. They are more of a virtual friend, someone I met on the net--not that there's anything wrong with that. But then don't you find someone you can actually talk to in person a bit more special? I do think that the current generation are delaying marriage somewhat--they might as well, unless cupid hits them hard.
ReplyDeleteYes, though there is a difference between nondating and undateable.
DeleteTrue enough, in any generation there are wild ones, cautious ones, obsessives, and avoiders in romantic matters. Those whose predilections fall on the tails of the bell curve aren't much influenced by "the times." But many ordinary folks in the middle, really are influenced by contemporary mores, whatever they might be, which is to say the entire bell curve shifts right and left over time. The 70s, for example, really were wilder than today (I remember them), and not just among the the young. Bourgeois middle age people turned up at places like Plato's Retreat.
Voice communication is indeed receding, isn't it? New cell phone ads barely mention the feature: "Oh, and you can talk on it too." The fading of voice conversation skills might have something to do with the "not a lot of listening."
If you remember the 70's you weren't having enough fun (as they say) :) Just kidding. But yeah, I'd agree. Kids today have to be way more serious about their future if they are going to stay ahead/succeed. Course some won't, unfortunately. But that happens with every generation.
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