tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1656921634940224775.post8967875841477449964..comments2024-02-11T15:29:31.409-05:00Comments on Richard's Pretension: Broaching PoachingRichard Bellushhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10108081864942272619noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1656921634940224775.post-79849996183905830672017-08-01T10:15:23.964-04:002017-08-01T10:15:23.964-04:00Yes, it’s “desirable” that’s the key. Despite all ...Yes, it’s “desirable” that’s the key. Despite all the social changes of the past century, people still define that word in Cro-Magnon terms. Once again we’re talking about average behavior (there is always a bell curve of behavior, so generalizations apply just to the central hump), but the classic men-value-youth-and-beauty while women-value-status-and-resources cliché still holds water – that’s not all they value, of course, and there are trade-offs with other factors, but it’s a hefty part of the mix. For example, surveys show that high-earning women, who don’t need additional resources, actually (on average) value wealth and status in a partner MORE than do average-earners; higher incomes just up the standards, not reverse them. Buss tells an anecdote of professional young women at a restaurant table commenting on the absence of datable men while being served by handsome young male waiters – they weren’t datable. Men of any socioeconomic class hit on waitresses, of course, but, again, for the shallowest of Paleolithic-era reasons.<br /><br />Yes, un-broke men over a certain age get the “why aren’t you married?” question a lot, at least when other disqualifying factors aren’t obvious – and not infrequently coupled with overt queries about orientation. I don’t mind. It’s as good a table topic as any.<br /><br />Samantha puts on a really fun live show, and I recommend catching her if you get a chance. I think she was playing with the distortion by hand just for the finer control, but either way it sounded good. And yes, I’m sure she has broken hearts (and maybe a restraining order or two) scattered around the places she tours.<br />Richard Bellushhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10108081864942272619noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1656921634940224775.post-35144767654206117892017-08-01T00:13:32.333-04:002017-08-01T00:13:32.333-04:00Never had the desire to mate poach, which is not t...Never had the desire to mate poach, which is not to say I didn't think some of my friend's wives weren't attractive. I have to admit it crossed my mind when one of my friend's passed away and his widow asked me to come over to their house, but even then I shied away--it just felt like betrayal, and me and him had been friends for a long time.<br /><br />Re: Desirable mates are always in short supply--I can identify with that, but I guess I'm not alone in that outlook. I get a lot of: Why haven't you ever been married question (or used to). It was a lot easier when the hormones were raging, but now I'm too analytical. :)<br /><br />I liked that musical number, looked like she was having trouble with her guitar pedals, but she pulled it off professionally. Reckon she ever gets hit on? <br /><br />El Voxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05985563041511492981noreply@blogger.com